Loss is one of those things that I feel doesn’t get enough recognition for its efforts. Although it hurts, and although it breaks us down, it gives us experiences that teach resilience.
Losing something that you once loved is difficult in the sense that you may never have the opportunity to experience it again. In another sense, it leaves room for us to experience bigger, brighter emotions for something else.
Think about a time that you lost something or someone you loved. It was difficult, right? The first month often feels like hell without the thing you became attached to, but over time we naturally seem to adjust to life without it. This is the sacrifice that we are left with when we overcome loss. In order to continue living, we must let go of the memories, attachment, and love for the thing we once had.
Now this isn’t to say that a person should be complacent with loss, or become dissociated with the ones they love. Instead, it means leaving room for the possibility of loss and understanding that it is necessary for growth.
It’s a person's own choice whether they’d like to experience the loss for the rest of their lives, or only a matter of days. It isn’t the loss that’s hurting you, it’s YOU that’s hurting you. Allowing the loss to fester is of your own choosing, and is fully dependent on how long you allow yourself to suffer.
No matter the role you might’ve played in the loss you experience, consider that self preservation of your own well being may protect your loved ones from experiencing the same pain that you are. Don’t continue the cycle. Don’t punish others around you. Allow yourself to heal from the experience and move forward.
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I really love how you put this and explained how something so painful can be used for your own personal growth. I genuinely agree as all the hurt and loss you experience is what makes you who you are and the perseverance to get over these things make your stronger. Great post Madison, keep it up. :)
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